‘To err is human; forgive, divine’ is a well-known phrase by Alexander Pope.
But how many of us are actually divine?
And how many of us truly know how to forgive?
Dictionary definition: Stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake.
How easy is it to forgive someone?
You may feel that it is simple.
You can say out loud or in your head ‘I forgive you for causing me harm’.
But deep down in your subconscious mind is that the truth?
Do you find every now and then a little niggle suddenly comes to the surface, the old feelings suddenly return, showing you that you haven’t actually forgiven anybody for anything?
So how do we rid ourselves of these deep-seated emotions, the hurt, the distrust and the betrayal?
Rather than say forgiveness let us re name it and call it acceptance?
It is far easier to then understand and ‘accept’ why the problem occurred in the first place. We are all different, we are raised in different ways as children, we view life differently from all other people and we react in different ways to the stresses and strains of life.
We are all individual, 100% unique, no one person is the same as another, each of our life experiences changes us and we all make mistakes.
So, the person who brought hurt into your life reacted the only way they knew how faced with the situation that they found themselves in. The sum of their upbringing and their experience of life.
We all need to recognise each person’s individuality, whether we view their traits as good or not so good.
We are not robots, we are human beings and we all come with flaws and frailties.
None of us is perfect but when you really think about it we actually are perfect!
So, acceptance means forgiveness.
Accepting that others will not see and act the way we want them to or feel that they should, we may see it as though they are doing something wrong but actually, in their own minds it is their right.